Currently I am "talking to" two different guys. They are the complete opposite of each other and I really like them both and I've been on 3 dates with each of them. The issue is...I like little parts of each one and I wish I could mold them together to make 1 perfect man. But no...instead I have 2 guys that are missing very important qualities that I need in a boyfriend. For example:
- Dresses well
- Business degree, back in school for pre-med
- Sometimes an asshole
- Such a perv
- Sends me 3 texts in a row
- No fireworks
- Military boy
- Personality clicks perfectly with mine
- In school
- No job
- No car
- Kinda lazy
- Lives in Philadelphia
- Tried to hold MY hand (ew)
As you can see from my terrible inappropriate probably wrong and rude lists, these two boys are complete opposites. The problem is that I like them both but I can't see myself with either of them long term. Why you may ask? Because...
There are a few things that are extremely important to me when dating. The first thing is that the guy must be a gentleman. I can NOT stand when a guy gets too pervy too soon. I'm looking for the real thing...if you just want sex...please move along, that's not my style. Once a guy crosses over that fine line I write them off. Boy #1 is straddling that line and I don't like it at all, not one bit. Boy #2 is a complete gentleman and that goes so far with me!
Another thing that is important to me while dating is making sure that my list of non negotiables are met. While dating my last boyfriend of 3 years I learned that there are certain things I will not stand for in a relationship. Once we broke up, my friends sat me down and we compiled a list of those things.
- No Drugs
- Talks nicely to Jules
- Secure (No Jealousy)
- Wants kids
So there they are, my non negotiables. Call me snobby, see if I care, but my perfect man will have all of those qualities. I feel like I deserve to have someone who fits those things and anyone who doesn't, isn't good enough for me. WOW...that sounds awful...
So back to the boys...what the hell am I supposed to do!? This post was not planned for today...I wanted to give some background before I threw this dilemma out but last night I went out with boy #1 and it threw me for a loop. We made out like highschoolers in his car at the end of the date and there were no fireworks at all. It surprised the hell outta me but you can't just make fireworks appear and those damn things are important for me to have. So now what do I do? Do I break it off with boy #1? Aww that kinda makes me sad, but boy #2 is great too! It's just...I don't know if I can see myself with him long term due to the fact that he has no job and he's kinda lazy, but we have a personality connection that I have not been able to find in a LONG time...ughhhhh someone help me!
And I bet most of you will say what my mom said when I called her last night after my date at 12AM....
Dump them both